Why Shouldn’t You Sleep With Him one the First Date?
Author: Sandra Sloan
Date: June 17, 2013
Categories: Adult Dating Dating Advice Dating Tips
Why Shouldn’t You Sleep With Him one the First Date?
Figuring out, when to finally take that next step into the bedroom with the guy you have been dating can be a confusing time. However, all the advice out there says that you shouldn’t sleep with him on a first day. Despite if everything is in aliment with chemistry and attraction. The consensus is that you should hold off sleeping with someone on a first date, not matter how perfect it might seem at the time.
Dating Tip 1: The First Test
Even though you can Find Love by sleeping together on the first date, its not recommended and here’s why.
When you’re courting someone, you can absolutely wait to have sex. If you wait to have sex you can figure out if you have the values your date is looking for and vice-versa.
If there is interest in pursuing a relationship with your date waiting a small period of time before having sex shouldn’t be a huge problem.
You know guys! Guys love a challenge, hold-off, don’t give up all the good, and keep him waiting. They will think its romantic to try and bed you. Playing a little hard to get is always fun.
The good men will stick around. Playing the waiting game will weed out the good from the bad, so play it safe and Find Love with the right guy.
You had a nice dinner and held hands. You both had a good date, don’t think you own him for that by having sex with him, not matter how much dinner was, its still not worth it.
Dating Tip 2: Find Your Feelings
There are two types of feelings you’ll experience on a first date, the emotional feelings and the physically feelings.
When you’re on the date and you’re thinking it has been the best date ever and you think you’re all set to go home and go all the way, you need to reel it in and remember:
You don’t know much about this guy, like where he lives, does he have siblings or when was the last time he had a girlfriend.
You have limited information on the this guy, wait until you know each other better before you think about having sex.
The point is, you should know someone better before you jump into the sac with him.
While physically attractions are amazing, having an emotional connection will only enhance your first time.
Find out what he thinks about current events and who his favorite band is, this will be beneficial to both of you.
More times than not, we will fall for someone based purely on their physically attraction, You’ll need to have patience to figure out if you’re compatible on an emotional level as well. This way you can make clear, mature choice without having any regrets.
Dating Tip 3: Take Your Time
Sleeping with him on the first date sets a pace for the relationship, and its fast. You’ll need to control the pace better by not rushing into anything to hastily. It’s ok to take your time and lets things move slowly.
If it happens that you do sleep with him on your first date that might set the tone for him thinking you do this with every guy. This could be the end of the relationship, don’t let him think you’re an easy lay.
Taking things slowly on an more intimate pace will allow the relationship to blossom. You can start to know each other on a higher level and that will lead to better sex and a better relationship.
If you sleep with him on the first date most likely long talks on the phone, going for walks or grabbing lunch during the day will be over, he would have gotten laid and the pursuit it over.
By waiting you’ll be able to tell if he wants to get into your heart as well as your pants. You’ll need to wait for this sign, that when you know you’ll be ready for a relationship with him.
By not waiting to have sex you’ll set the tone and all he’ll want to have sex, all the time. The relationship will turn more into a teenage love affair than a mature, romantic adult relationship.
Do yourself a favor lady and follow these rules for a first date. Sleeping with him on the first date isn’t going to be good for you. Instead you need to wait and feel out where his head is at and where yours is heading. Figure out feelings; distinguish between the emotional and physical feelings. Don’t let his good looks charm you into bed right away. Finally, pace yourself and keep the relationship on track. You’re both two mature adult daters, don’t fall in a teenage dating pair and have the relationship all about having sex.
Author: Sandra Sloan
Sandra Sloan is a self-proclaimed dating expert. She's 25 years old and recently single. Sandra says: "I live in the San Fernando Valley, basically a suburb of Los Angeles, and I moved out here just over a year ago to be with my now ex-boyfriend. There’s a lot of dating sites out there that are legitimate, but sadly a lot that are a scam. I’m going to write reviews about my experiences and inform you of which dating sites are real and which sites you need to avoid! "